It is quiet unfortunate that many people can’t contribute their opinion in the public due to fear of public speaking. Some people dread public speaking to the extent that it can drive them away from a public gathering when maybe they are mandated to speak in the gathering. Many people have good opinions that can change the society positively but because fear cannot let them air out their opinion in the public, the idea is buried within them.
Lack of confidence for public speaking is bad, it makes one cheap and odd. One thing that baffles me is that people that cannot speak in public are parrots in their homes and when they are with close friends; how come they lose the boldness in the public?
Have you ever wondered what you lose as you can’t speak in public? Many people think it doesn’t matter but think about these:
Do you know as a person living with fear of public speaking, you can likely loose in job interviews? This is because you can become frustrated in the public and can’t be able to deliver what you have upstairs. So, you are considered incompetent for what you are competent in and you will lose the job.
What a loss?
Also, you will be more comfortable working in a team and giving effective presentations and seminars in your work place. But when you can’t speak in public, your relationship with your colleague will forever remain poor.
As a confident public speaker, you can easily start up a conversation with a stranger. Do you think it’s not important? What if you lost your way? Even not, it can expand your social circles and improve your personal life.
Do you know that many people make a living through public speaking? Think about Dede One Day, Klint De Drunk, Beta Nwamba and many more comedians. Many people are more talented comedians than these people but because they cannot speak in public confidently, their talent is buried in them.
Having known all these, don’t you think it’s worth conquering your fear of public speaking? Here are some tips to help you conquer your phobia of public speaking:
1. Take the plunge
The only guarantee to success is to keep trying. The only way you can get over your fear of public speaking is by going ahead to speak in the public; yes, it can help you a lot. The long you stay without speaking in the public, the more intense your fear become. Try making a presentation in any small gathering; don’t resist yourself whenever you are asked to make public presentations. Go ahead and deliver that message you have been wondering on how to deliver; try exchanging words with strangers. It may be challenging in the first days but as you continue, you will become used to it.
2. Mind matters
We are who we made ourselves. And we behave the way we think. Why do you think that you can’t do it when you have not given it a trial; some loads are lighter than they look. Never you say, “I know I can’t do it”; practice makes better. Change the state of your mind first; tell yourself you can do it. Remove the fear from your mind first and certainly, a change will come.
3. Make preparations first
Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration, said Thomas Edison. Practicing your speech severally before delivering plays a vital role in confident speaking. The preparations will alleviate the jitters you would feel in delivering your speech. When you are prepared, you trust yourself for a quality speech and so, become confident during delivery.
Public speaking is not an inborn talent; it’s a skill that can be cultivated by any one. It’s true that it comes natural in some people but even they still have to practice for a better delivery. Many talented speakers didn’t do well because they fail to prepare.
Caution: After all your preparations, relax for about 30 minutes before delivering you speech.
4. Know your audience
When we speak before our friends, we can’t be nervous; but when we are in front of strangers, we become so nervous. So, try mingling with few people in the audience before you deliver your speech. This makes you feel like the public are just your old friends and you can feel free talking to them.
5. Join any social group
Being in a place where speaking on stage is so often can help a lot. Social groups where people do interesting things on stage and make people happy can be so good that you may not even know when you jump to the stage to speak.
6. Think big
People that make things happen in the society are people with big thought. Think of what you can do to make an image in the society. Don’t think you are too small. Look towards your goal and speaking will not be a hindrance. But if you think you are not worth making an impact in your society, fear will grip you.
7. Persist determinedly
Be patient. Do not expect things to change in a twinkle of an eye. Some people take more time to improve and others take less. Don’t because you have not improved within a period of time say that you can never do. Just go with the flow.
8. Stop procrastination
Procrastination is a grave where opportunity is buried. Some people keep postponing the day of their trial to a later date. No, start now; don’t think tomorrow will be better for you. Try today and let tomorrow be your second attempt. Do think you will be perfect when you get older. You can perfect yourself through practice.
9. Bounce back
Maybe after all your preparations and courage, you failed on stage, don’t give up. Bounce back. After all, people have know that you are not good speaking in public; so no need hiding and believe me, your second attempt will surprise you as you can give out a neat presentations.
10. Go by gradual
Don’t take yourself very seriously. Approach public speaking with a committed yet playful manner. Children hardly experience stage fright because they approach public speaking in a playful manner. They take it funny. Adopt the same attitude.
So, let today be the day you will take that first step to speak in the public. Go ahead and rock the stage!
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