Well I may not know the school of thought you align with but to me ‘SEX IS A VERY IMPORTANT ISSUE IN EVERY MAN’S LIFE’. I can make bold to say that understanding the topic in discuss can save a marriage (over 80% guaranteed). WHY? Having the understanding that, the way men are wired makes them want to make love every now and then, helps in harnessing every relationship.
Now, before you leave this page, let me authoritatively tell you that a lot of men have so many ‘unnecessary’ arguments with their wives which ultimately leads to a strain in the relationship because of SEX. Ask the Men.
Let’s Get Straight to Business
The act of love making goes beyond just a physical thing or act for men unlike women. Contrary to what most people think, a man does not engage in sex because he is too weak and cannot just seam to control his libido (this might just apply to a few cases), but he just wants to constantly be made to know that he is ‘one all important man’ to his wife. They love to feel in control and sex is one major way too to make it happen for them. They want to know you feel secure been taken advantaged of by them and vise versa.
Sex makes a man feel loved and desired. No other way easily communicates lack of intimacy the way the word ‘NO’ does.
Hey listen, I am not saying women do not have the right to say ‘no’ to sex from their partners. Far from it. In fact the ability to do so, and do it with wisdom I highly recommend. But, most women have resulted in using this method to ‘punish’ their man for any little misunderstanding but research has it that when a couple reconciles after a misunderstanding, sex always come after. Maybe this can be a therapy to sooth every inner hurt either couple may have felt. I don’t understand that but it does work. All I am saying is “consciously STOP yourself from saying NO all the time” if possible give in even if you don’t feel like it.
Another reason why men ‘seams’ to love sex is the boost it gives to every other aspect of their life. It gives them confidence not just in them self but in the relationship in general. A man said “sex is a release of a day-to-day pressures and seems to make everything else better”. When he does not release in that way he releases in another way – most likely through anxiety.
It hurts men…
When they are turned down and makes them feel rejected. So you see why doing that often can tear a home apart? It also can lead a man into depression or worst still aggression.
So What Do I Do?
Every relationship has hope of been restored only if we are willing. Think your case can’t possibly be? You could still try out some tips for a sort of re-spicing and gradually build up your relationship with your partner.
Here are some tips to help:
Start From Were You Are:
Sex does not begin and end with being naked on the bed. Little touching here and there even while you bought may be busy doing stuffs around the house. Kiss him, squeeze his hands lovingly and most importantly STOP NAGGING. I’ll talk about that some other time.
Try Out New Stuffs:
Get him breakfast in bed, communicate during lovemaking, read books on sex together, has a way of making it a lot easier. You could spend more time on fore-play. Try the Tantric Sex (a slow form of meditative sex that’s said to increase intimacy and create a mind blowing connection that can lead to powerful orgasm).
Flirt With Him:
Most often when the children and other distractions starts popping up we forget to make calls like when we were courting. Even the power of sending romantic text messages cannot be over emphasised.
So, any time a man gets depressed because he is not being touched, it can be likened to a little boy who stands in his crib and cries wanting to be carried up. Physical touch of any kind ups the brains oxytocin levels for both gender. Orgasm also has the ability to make the brain release oxytocin and vasoressin, the “feel good” hormones that promotes attachment.
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