Marriage can be a wonderful experience, though It can be painful, frustrating, hilarious, annoying, tender and comforting at times. How much it leans to either end of the happiness spectrum depends on women making a good choice of partner at the beginning.
There are mistakes women make generation after generation, when it comes to marriage. Many ladies don’t even acknowledge it because their knowledge of marital relationship has not gone too deep.
These mistakes could be avoided to some extent if mothers could spend time teaching their daughters about marriage the way they teach them other life skills; but unfortunately many mothers don’t.
These mistakes are such that most ladies don’t consider it wrong and to be condemned; and so, keep repeating it time after time.
Let’s talk about some of them in this article that you can know if you are on the right part in your marriage line.
• Neglecting and abandoning your friends and parents’ advice
Neglecting advice from friends and parents are very common when some ladies fall in love; especially when it calls for leaving their partner. They rather prefer losing their relationship with parents and friends and retain their guy. This is a terrible mistake girl can make in marriage process. Ladies needs all round support all their life time. Don’t be madly in love that you can go against your parents’ advice. No man is perfect; not even that you guys. Maybe they have found out some of his bad characters or traditions.
Not only that; can you tell what he has in mind? What if he starts to maltreat you later in life? Who will you run to? Your actions on your parents may let him take your love for granted. Then, you will live your marital life in misery. If he so much loves you, let him convince your parents first and if maybe he tries o maltreat you on the long-run, you will have a choice.
N/B: Don’t misunderstand me; I didn’t mean you should listen to gossips but don’t be madly in love that you can take every advice against your relationship to be a crime.
• Going in a Hurry
Many ladies are always in a hurry to get married that they cannot think of understanding their partner first. They can be the one pressuring for formal introduction and wedding. This is always dangerous. Check out for compatibility in character and other factors. You may say “insofar he is a man” at the beginning but mind you, marriage is not a school that you will one day graduate and get out form; it is for a life time. And once you get into it, there is no going back.
Getting to wear a wedding gown is not what marriage is all about. After the time of wedding gown, you will still be looking forward for a happy and a fulfilled married life. The only chance you have to plan for happy married life is when you are still single. It is better you endure and find the right person first than jumping into marriage happily in the begging and later have the rest of your days to regret. Nothing is wrong with being single and happy but something is with partnering the wrong person.
• Not doing researches
Most women don’t have conversations on serious issues before marriage. What I mean by serious issues are issues that are capable of bringing divorce later. Some are afraid to ask in the beginning because they don’t want anything that can stop their marriage, putting it that it will be later after marriage. Ask of his health conditions, the number of children he would want the union to produce, his sex life, religious life, his dream and goals, parenting style, etc. you need to know beforehand if his belief is incompatible with yours. Don’t wait until after marriage as you may not have the power to affect the change you need then. Compromise the situations first before getting into the bond.
• Marring because of Love
The character of women getting married because they are in love is bad. Being in love in itself is not a good enough reason to marry. Women fall in love for many reasons; it doesn’t mean that the man they have fallen in love with will be a god partner. Also, your love life is different from your married life. Women fall in love so easily but try to sort out some other facts in a relationship before marriage; find out how well you can be together for a life time. Some women love because of the way a guy looks, dresses, or because of material things; still there are other characters in them that they cannot like which can make them emotionally imbalance. Think of your marriage free of love and passion and after your resolution, embrace it with love.