A healthy relationship can be one of the best ingredient to your life; it improves your life in all aspects, strengthen your health, your state of mind and your connection with others. But unfortunately, most relationships today last no longer than one week. The inability to keep a lasting relationship has made life miserable to many people. Sometimes people wonder if God has no destined partner made for him/her. Well, everybody has a partner destined for him/her but there are basic cultures and ethics that are to be followed to keep a lasting relationship.
Just like every other activities of man, relationship has its own do’s and don’ts. Little things that people overlook may be responsible for his/her inability to keep a long lasting relationship so far.
How long will your relationship last? No man can tell since no man can predict the future or can tell what a fellow have in mind. Still, your actions and reactions can influence your relationship positively or negatively. If you love your partner and want to have him/her on a lasting relationship, here are some actions you need to take.
Try to understand your partner’s personal value
Misunderstanding and conflicts happen when your values conflicts with that of others, and when expectations are not made. Ask your partner what he/she values and tell him/her yours. Respect each other’s value; don’t be a reason for your partner to abandon his/her old way of living. Even if it’s an old trend, adjust your partner gradually; give out a reason why you want the change convince him/her first with your reasons. New things may be good but it can take time for a new person to get used to it. Knowing what is important to your partner can help you avoid unnecessary conflicts.
Listen to your partner
Everybody on earth needs attention and respect. Listen to whatever your partner is telling you; even if it seems unimportant to you, it’s because it is important to your partner that he/she is telling you; don’t interrupt, show respect and concern by listening. Give him/her the opportunity to say anything he/she feels like; even if it doesn’t make any sense to you it is the best way to show appreciation for his/her person.
Be friendly to your partner
Smile to your partner it is the simplest way to show friendliness. Let him/her feel your warmth by offering help and kind words. Don’t always be good in comparison; don’t always wait for a misdeed to blame. Give praise and appreciate his/her efforts. Show it in your tone of voice, your posture and your actions. Tell him/her how much he/she means to you; be the cause of his/her joy in trying times.
Don’t try to prove a point to your partner using threat, force and intimidation in an argument. It will scare your partner away from you. Trace facts the way it is supposed to be; go by his/her opinion when he/she is right, don’t outdate your partner. Some people proudly believe that they know better than their partners. Being more educated or experienced in a field is not a guarantee that your wisdom will supersede that of your partner. Try to compromise. If you have made a mistake, admit and apologize sincerely. Also, forgive him/her when he/she makes a mistake.
Trust is a foundation of a good relationship; give people reasons to trust you and once they do, you will be desired by all. Don’t be notorious. No human being in his right sense will want to associate with a person of corrupt character.
Contribute your time and effort without unreasonable expectations for returns. Give what you are comfortable with and accept what others can give with appreciation. Don’t always wait to take; don’t be stingy to your partner. Try to make available to him/her the best he/she wants from you. Do things for his/her sake; it may not be easy always but it can be a good reason to prove your fidelity and confidence on the long run.
Share your feelings
People can’t read your mind; ask for what you want. Make your requests politely; don’t think he/she understands you but don’t want to comply when you did not say anything. Communicate and share your feelings with him/her.
Be contented with your partner’s quality
Many people keep looking for a better person which may never come. Appreciate his/her little achievements so far and both of you can struggle for more. Put him/her on the right part if you know better. Nobody was great from the womb; be a teacher then. Put him/her to the quality you want and you will be surprised to have raised a genius.