There is no lower parson than the one who lives with a spouse with whom he or she can not communicate. Marriages that are built on lack of communication are doomed to failure. Success in marriage don’t just happen overnight. A marriage therapist said, many couple is not very good at it. Those who are able to openly express there feelings in all emotionally safe environment typically deal with situations as they come up and avoid burying frustrations which always have a way of coming out some point; I strongly believe that successfully marriage is as a result of how well the couples are able to communicate with each other on the issues in their lives.
Developing an on exceptional communication skill is essential for effective marriage. The couples must be able to share knowledge and ideas to transmit a sense of communication to one another.
Many couples today are having communication problems. Communication among couples starts with one understanding each others sensitivities. When a couple develops the habit of communicating effectively to one another, it removes the problem. Open up and discuss about things relating to your marriage. You must realize that you are different in the many you see yourself and perceive the world and use this unique knowledge as a guiding tool to your communication with your partner. Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after. Communicate to your partner frequently. Make an effort to talk about feeling, desires, wants, needs, and everything else.
Marital conflicts are inevitable. No one is perfect. But you must talk and solve issues. Unresolved conflicts are potential time bombs in marriage. If your partner fails to bring important topics up, don’t let this discourage you. Through communication, your marriage will be strong. Difficult situations are solved, doubts are cleared, and malice, fighting, high-blood pressure and divorce are avoided. While joy, peace, progress and answer to prayers are experience. Communication cannot be too much in marriage. This is probably because; every aspect of the marriage depends largely on the ability of the couples to communicate effectively with each other. Bearing grudges and bottling up issues does not solve problem, it rather create a gulf of dissatisfaction which lead to distrust and dejection. Good communication with your partner will result in growth, understanding and affection. Increase of trust and intimacy as well as relief and healing when there has been a hurt.
Communicate to your partner both verbally and orally. Don’t keep your grievances to your self. When you don’t share your grievances with your partner it can destroy your marriage. Communicate with your spouse. Discuss what is troubling the marriage and explore the reasons which may have led to the present situation. There is no problem that has no solution. As both of you discuss it, agree to follow certain rules. Take time to speak and don’t misunderstand your partner or interrupt when it is his/her turn to express his/her thoughts.
Communicate with you partner to find out the primary source of the present conflict and do not drag up incidents from past or being in comparisons with other couples. There is noting so frustrating as being bogged blown by the inessentials, while the most important matter at hand remains unresolved.
In conclusion, do not keep your grievances with yourself. Discuss it to your partner and keep your marriage growing.