Are you tired of being the new girl at school, work, your neighbourhood? Do you want to make friends, be known and liked by others? Here are few tips you should follow to stop being new and start being cool.
1. BE THE FIRST TO SAY HELLO
In my last article ‘4 Tips: How to Flirt With A Guy In A Restaurant‘ I told you guys that you only have three seconds to make an impression, so then why not use your three seconds to say ‘Hello’.
When you say hello, you give the impression that you are polite, humble and most importantly, that you notice them. You wanna get noticed, you gonna notice somebody. Just saying… you want to give the impression that you are respectful and humble but not foolish.
Apart from the fact that saying good morning shows that you are polite, notice them and shows politeness and humility, it also says “hey, am here, notice me”. when you say hello you say, I see you and see me.
Note that you cannot make an impression especially a good one without a smile. You know they say a picture is worth more than a thousand words, well, a smile is worth more than a million sweet, emotional, heart touching words.
2. SAY SOMETHING
Don’t just keep silent and expect to be talked to, you could always start a discussion. Say something… random. When in class, you could just turn to the person by your side and say “is it just me or is this class boring”? Believe it or not, people like hearing random statements, they always have something to say. You would be shocked as to how some people can say millions of worlds and tell you thousands of stories from a phrase you make at random.
Making random statements gives the impression that you are jovial, friendly and outspoken, even when you are not. It also gives you an opportunity to blend in. You give the impression that you are normal and human and not an alien.
3. LISTEN MORE AND TALK LESS
Believe me people like to talk about themselves, a lot, especially girls. I mean what better person to talk about than ourselves right? So then, let them do the talking while you do the listening or better still, pretend to be listening. Always have them do the talking, it will not only save you energy, but it will also save you from having to spill your secret or saying something that will put you in trouble.
4. ASK QUESTIONS
While discussion is going on, ask questions, that will give the impression that you are listening and that you are interested. I mean, who doesn’t want her story to be interesting and having people interested. I know I do.
Not only would you seem interested when you ask questions, you gain the trust of those people. I mean come on everybody wants someone who would just listen. When you ask questions, you give the impression that you care.
5. LAUGH, LAUGH, JUST LAUGH
You know they say, laughter is the best medicine. Well, how about this, laughter is the perfect friendship charm. You want to blend in? Just laugh, don’t think, just laugh. Whether it is a really funny joke or an amazingly boring one, just laugh. All this says is that you have a nice sense of humor.
Amigos, it is all about impression. whether with one person or a group, follow these tips and have yourself riding in the train of cool. Good luck